Not in a predatory sense, but in a protagonist sense. It’s about flipping the script from “Will they accept me?” to “Do I want them ?” Let’s be real: dating while trans is playing a video game on hard mode. We deal with chasers, with “polite” rejections, with the exhausting labor of educating every new crush.
The field is wide open, sisters. Go get your boy. Or your girl. Or your them. Just don’t sit on the bench waiting for an invitation to the game. sadie hawkins tgirl
By Jamie
For those who don’t remember the lore: Sadie Hawkins was a fictional character in the Li’l Abner comic strip. Her “day” was a race where the unmarried women of Dogpatch got to chase down the bachelors. If a woman caught a man, he had to marry her. Not in a predatory sense, but in a protagonist sense
But the Sadie Hawkins idea? That gave me permission to hunt. The field is wide open, sisters
Sadie Hawkins energy is the antidote.
The first time I walked up to a cis-het guy at a concert and said, “Hey, I think you’re cute. Buy me a taco?”—his jaw dropped. Not because I was trans, but because a woman had dared to take the lead. We dated for six months.